Episodes
Friday Feb 02, 2024
Friday Feb 02, 2024
Worried about what's ahead for your loved one with a developmental disability?
It's totally okay to feel unsure, especially when you are trying to plan for their future.
In this episode, I share Jamie's story—a powerful reminder of why just having a Special Needs Trust might not be enough.
Jamie's parents did what they thought was best and set up a special needs trust, but when they were gone, Jamie's life got tough. It took her 3 years to find her way again. I don't want that for you or your loved one. That's why I'm talking about three necessary steps you can take alongside a Special Needs Trust. These steps can really make a difference for your loved one's future, even without you.
I also describe what a Special Needs Trust (USA) and Henson Trust (Canada) are, and why they are important to set up for your loved one with a disability.
Come join me in the video as I explain these steps. Let's face the future together with hope and possibility.
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About Eric Goll:
Welcome to Empowering Ability! I'm Eric Goll, and my mission is to help you ensure your loved one with an intellectual/developmental disability lives an Awesome Ordinary Life! As a family member and coach, I support families touched by autism/ developmental disabilities. I provide the knowledge and tools to cultivate an awesome ordinary life for your loved ones, ensuring their care and support now and in the future.
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Friday Sep 29, 2023
#092: Group homes: The dangerous truth
Friday Sep 29, 2023
Friday Sep 29, 2023
I know you want your loved one with a disability to be safe and well cared for in the future...
And... you might be thinking that a group home and/or day program is the answer.
But... I want to share something with you that I heard from a conversation with a government agency director that might just shake your entire belief system.
In a word: It's dangerous.
Curious? Concerned? You should be.
Listen to this short episode, where I uncover the dangers of group homes and day programs for your loved one and give you a better alternative.
With gratitude,
Eric
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Saturday Sep 23, 2023
#091: Breaking the Caregiving Dependency Cycle
Saturday Sep 23, 2023
Saturday Sep 23, 2023
Ever catch yourself worrying that you’re loved one isn’t capable of independence?
Trust me, you’re not alone. My mom felt the same way about my sister Sarah.
Mom was so worried that Sarah couldn’t even get out of bed on her own. The truth was something else entirely.
… the lengths I had to go to prove it? Let’s just say it’s a story you don’t want to miss!
AND it could very well change how you approach your own caregiving journey.
Let me tell you the story… listen to this episode!
with gratitude,
Eric
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Friday Feb 03, 2023
#075: From dependence to independence, hear mother Alina’s story.
Friday Feb 03, 2023
Friday Feb 03, 2023
Alina, the mother of 17-year-old Juliana, joined me to talk about their experience of going from complete dependence on Mom to Juliana growing her capability and independence.
Alina was doing EVERYTHING for Juliana. The idea of independence was there, but Alina was locked into the habit of doing everything.
When Alina thought about Juliana's independence, her fears kicked in, creating a state of overwhelm and keeping them stuck. This resulted in Juliana learning that she couldn't do things.
Then things started to change when Alina and I began to work together. Alina's awareness and mental outlook shifted, which was the key to unlocking Juliana's independence.
Alina no longer feels like the caretaker and has to solve all the problems. Juliana and Alina are now on an equal footing, having more open dialogue, and Juliana is starting to lead her own life!
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Saturday Dec 04, 2021
#63: We all fall down
Saturday Dec 04, 2021
Saturday Dec 04, 2021
Sometimes we fail, we fall down... and we get back up, dust ourselves off, and try again. Falling down is a significant way to learn and find meaning in our lives. So why don't you let your loved one with a developmental disability fall down? FEAR! Your loved one might have vulnerabilities, and you do your best to protect them from harm's way. BUT, the protection you provide might be leading to more harm than the natural consequences that you're saving your loved one from experiencing. In this video, you'll learn the value of allowing your loved one with a disability to fall down and experience the natural consequences.
Wednesday Dec 18, 2019
#061: The Power Of Positive Vision, with Lorna Sullivan
Wednesday Dec 18, 2019
Wednesday Dec 18, 2019
Lorna Sullivan, a global disability leader who is making significant changes inside the New Zealand social system. Lorna is the founder of the International Initiative for Disability Leadership (IIDL) and Director of Mana Whaikaha. I had the pleasure of learning from Lorna when she was part of the faculty in Michael Kendrick's Optimal Individualized Service Design Course.
In this podcast, we cover a wide range of topics, including:
- doing away with deficit-based assessments,
- enhancing a person's mana (explanation inside the podcast),
- the power of holding a positive vision,
- the rights of people with disabilities,
- tools for social inclusion,
- and much more!
About Lorna Sullivan:
Lorna became involved in being an advocate for people with disabilities by accident. She began her study in the field of Psychology, where she was first exposed to people with disabilities who she didn't know existed because they were hidden from the rest of society.
Lorna realized the damage that is done when a group of people, through no fault of their own, are marginalized from the rest of society and have no mechanism to find their way back.
Lorna shares, "If we continue to view disabled people as human tragedy and the best we can do for these people is to care for them; we will continue to deny them every aspect of life that we hold to be valuable."
Lorna helps us understand people with disabilities are the same as every other person, the same human needs, aspirations, and desires. She is on a mission to include people in all areas of society.
Lorna on Inclusion
Paraphrasing from the podcast, Lorna shares:
There is a fear of rejection, and in many cases, actual rejection is true.
My experience has been society wants to engage with people that have disabilities, but they don't know how to. We need to give them [people] the tools to do that [engage].
The best tool that we have to create more inclusion in society is to keep people close. If a person with disabilities is with other valued people in the Community, it makes it easier for other valued people to communicate with a person with disabilities. It normalizes the person.
Tweetable Quotes from Lorna:
"Never resort to the special, unless you have exhausted the ordinary. If we start in the special, we will always end in the special."
"The only thing that will change the trajectory of the lives of people with disabilities is where you have strong families, with strong vision - you have competent disabled people. Where you don't irrespective of the capacity of that person, you have dependency."
"Holding a very strong vision for a positive, meaningful, and full life isn't a trivial thing. If you don't hold this vision through the hard times, you will get blown anyway the wind is blowing."
This podcast with Lorna Sullivan is jam-packed with wisdom and is a must listen!
Also, if you like ideas discussed in this podcast, you are going to love the upcoming FREE Masterclass Workshop Series that guides families to build a strong vision for a positive, meaningful and full life that Lorna was talking about! Click Here to Sign up for free.
Love & Respect,
Eric
Resources:
Mana Whaikaha website: https://manawhaikaha.co.nz/
The International Initiative for Disability Leadership (IIDL) website: http://www.iimhl.com/iidl-homepage.html
Thursday Jan 31, 2019
#056: How To Create The Good Life, with Genia Stephen
Thursday Jan 31, 2019
Thursday Jan 31, 2019
Here is the secret.... it is to start with developing valued roles. What is a valued role? A valued roles is the answer you give to the question 'What do you do?' when you meet someone new. [more on valued roles below] Guest Genia Sthphen also shares her story as a sibling, a mother to two sons, and how she has helped to create the good life for her son Will.
Professionally, Genia is a midwife to many, and an activist with a mission to band together with families to joyfully pursue the good things in life. She recently launched the Good Things in Life, which is an online community for young families who share a vision of the good life for their kids with disabilities.
You can listen to this conversation in its entirety by clicking play on the player below, OR by clicking one of the following links to listen on your favourite podcast player; iTunes, Spotify, and Google Play.
Growing Up With a Sibling that has a Developmental Disability (DD)
Genia is the 3rd of 4 daughters, and her younger sister Kate has a DD. Genia’s two older sisters are a fair amount older, and it was really just the two of them (Kate & Genia) when they were growing up.
Genia remembers going to appointments with Kate where they had Kate do silly things, like hold onto the pencil, and they would pull on it until she let it go. Kate didn’t care much for holding onto the pencil and as a result, was diagnosed with having poor muscle tone. But, Genia and Kate thought it was funny because Kate would drag Genia around the house on her back by her toes.
Genia recalls, “At 5 mom sat me down on her lap and told me that Kate had a disability. Mom was serious, it was an occasion, She explained Kate would learn more slowly than other kids. I responded by crying. I was trying to figure out what was expected in this situation, and it was clear to her that the appropriate response was to be sad.”
It was a big deal for Genia’s mom. She had never experienced someone with a disability, Her mom was terrified, intimidated, and overwhelmed. It was something worth crying about for her.
Genia’s mom reached out and started to connect with other parents and other people that knew more than she did. She surrounded herself with this community and exploded into a powerful advocate. She stopped delivering the information in a way that elicited sadness and started having really high expectations. She had connected with some people that had worked with Dr. Wolf Wolfensberger, who developed the social theory of Social Role Valorization (SRV).
Genia attended her first SRV workshop at 15. It taught her language, and how the world works for people that are devalued.
Key Insight: Connecting with other families is important. Not just getting connected, but who you get connected with. What are their beliefs and mindsets? How you deal with grief and fear is guided by your mindsets and fear for a person with a disability.
When Genia’s second son Will was born he was very very sick. Genia recalls, "we weren’t sure he was going to make it. They were telling the family that he would have significant disabilities." Genia’s response was “Well yeah yeah yeah, but is he going to make it, let's focus on what matters here. And he did [make it!].”
What is Social Role Valorization (SRV)?
GS: “SRV is the universal ways that people are devalued in society. Devalued people are not able to access the good things in life the way that valued people are. For example, devalued people do not have the same opportunities for personal growth, education, meaningful work, freely given relationships, pursuing their interests. People access the good things in life through the roles we play in society. It is also how we connect and understand each other. One of the first questions we ask someone is “what do you do?”. It helps us understand and relate to each other through roles.”
There is No Risk-Free Path
GS: “If your major fear is that someone is going to be hurt or rejected, and the way that you prevent that is by keeping people protected and isolated from the people that might hurt them, then that leads you down a vision that likely includes a lot of services and people paid to keep the person safe.
Alternatively, if your mindsets and beliefs are that safety for vulnerable people comes through relationships, this leads you down a path of life in the community.
There is no risk-free path.”
What Does The Good Life Look Like for Will?
Listen to the podcast to hear how Genia’s family has thought about the role of student for Will. Genia and her family thought through the things that were likely to increase people’s high expectation and positive image of Will in the role of student, starting from the age of 2!
GS: “Will is now 12, and we think about for his peer group what are the typical valued social roles that a person holds? And, what are the kinds of opportunities that those roles bring? Then we pursue those things.”
Want proof!?! Watch the video below.
Video: Will Enjoying The Good Things In Life
Key Insight: Look to what is typical for people that don’t have a disability at that stage of life and focus on the roles the individual could hold to create your vision. Additionally, the person supporting needs to understand the social role and also have the social currency to help them get there.
In this podcast, Genia and I also cover topics including raising the consciousness of devaluation in our society, the experience of being a mother with a child that has a disability, and what the experience of having a sibling with a disability.
Tweet-able Moments from the conversation with Genia Stephen:
"Devalued people are not able to access the good things in life the way that valued people are. For example, devalued people do not have the same opportunities for personal growth, education, meaningful work, freely given relationships, pursuing their interests."
"...if your mindsets and beliefs are that safety for vulnerable people comes through relationships, this leads you down a path of life in the community."
"Look to what is typical for people that don’t have a disability at that stage of life and focus on the roles the individual could hold to create your vision."
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Love & Respect,
Eric Goll
Resources:
Will Social Media: Theadventuresofwill.ca
The Good Things in Life --> For Parents of young children with IDDs. Goodthingsinlife.org.
Contact Genia by email: Genia@goodthingsinlife.org
Creating Valued Roles with Janet Klees: Click Here
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Wednesday Jun 06, 2018
#046: Re-Writing Our Stories, with Brian Raymond King
Wednesday Jun 06, 2018
Wednesday Jun 06, 2018
Brian shares his story of multiple health challenges and family adversities, and his insights about how we can re-write our story and take control of our lives.
In this episode, I have an engaging conversation with life coach, Brian Raymond King. Throughout Brian’s life he’s been a student of adversity as he experienced multiple health diagnosis including; cancer, ADHD and MS – as well as going through a divorce, and being a single parent to three children with ADHD. Brian shares his story and his insights about how we can re-write our story and take control of our lives.
On the podcast Brian shares:
“It’s a matter of doing what you can with what you’ve got. In situations like mine, you don’t just give up on life and let it pass you by because you can’t do everything each day that you can do on your best day. Some people use their best day as their standard, but that is ridiculous because life ebbs and flows. Depending on where I’m at that day, I think about what can do and I show up and do 100% at it.”
How have you bounced back from each challenge in your life?
Paraphrasing from the podcast, Brain Shares:
“With each new diagnosis there is that oh crud moment. This is usually brief. But, grumping and groaning will not change the situation. Then I shift to what do I need to know? What resources are available? What books do I need to read so I can manage this? At some point being resourceful just stuck.”
What tools do we have in our toolkit to be resilient?
Paraphrasing from the podcast, Brain Shares:
“First off, there is noise that makes it difficult to use the tools [we have]. One of the most annoying offenders is the ‘shoulds’. It [life] should be this way, or it should be that way. Once we stop ‘should’ing’ all over ourselves, we can take the first step toward a solution. Maybe you don’t know what the solution is yet, but you can start problem solving.”
What about when the problem seems so bad, or too much to handle?
Brian asks his coaching clients, “Do you honestly believe that? Or, is that honestly true?”
Brian helps his clients think through if they want to be a victim of the situation or if they want to be resourceful and take charge by asking questions like:
“Do you want to be helpless or do you want to be in charge? What can you be in charge of right now? You can be in charge of your thoughts.”
In my coaching practice I often ask clients, “What assumption are you making?” This is a powerful question to help us realize the stories we are creating based on incomplete information. (Also, our assumptions tend to lean toward being negative.)
Mindset vs Skillsets:
Paraphrasing from the podcast, Brain Shares:
“You can have the best tools in the world [skillsets], but if you don’t believe in yourself [mindsets] you might not even want to use those tools [skillsets].
Brian believes we must first develop or mindsets, which is comprised of our belief systems to get the most from our skillsets.
I ask Brian, How do we develop our mindsets and beliefs?
Brian shares, “Studying biographies. Don’t just listen to what they did, it is important to look at the decisions that they made, and the beliefs they hold. It is their beliefs and thoughts that led to their results. Try adapting to that belief for just a day - I am going to act as though this belief is true, and I am going to see the world through this lens. For example, you are a much different person if you believe that people are good at heart, vs people are just out there to screw you over. Things are first created in the mind, then in the real world.”
Who is one of your most influential mentors?
Brian shares, “Victor Frankl, who wrote 'Man’s Search for Meaning'. You can choose your attitude no matter your circumstances, and each person has the internal power to find inner meaning in any situation. He gave me perspective on how much I was self-pitying. I decided how I was going to face how I was going to feel and how I was going to choose to think.”
On the podcast, Brian discusses the concept of Hacking your Resiliency. Take a listen to the podcast to hear these valuable insights.
Brian leaves us with a challenge to consider, “Whenever a problem shows up one question you can ask yourself is, ‘What’s good about this?’ When you ask this question you immediately begin seeing what opportunities are available to you because that problem exists.
A big thank you to Brian for joining me on the podcast and sharing his insights! You can learn how to connect with Brian in the resources section below.
Love & Respect,
Eric Goll
Resources:
Brian's Website: Mindsetbeforeskillset.com
Connect with Brian on Facebook
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Thursday Nov 23, 2017
#038: Learn To Empower Yourself, with Dr. Annick Janson
Thursday Nov 23, 2017
Thursday Nov 23, 2017
In this week’s episode on the Empowering Ability Podcast we welcome guest Dr. Annick Janson, whom resides in NZ. Dr. Annick Janson is a clinical phycologist, and a mother of 3 children. Her youngest child, Yaniv, is on the spectrum, and life changed quite a bit when he came into their lives. Annick carries the deep personal experiences of being both a family member and a service professional.
As a professional, clinical phycologist, Annick followed a typical pathway, and became dissatisfied with the outcomes they were getting.
On the podcast Annick Shares:
“4 years ago, I met Sylvana Mahmic, CEO of Plum Tree service provider for young children that have a developmental disability in Australia - serving 700-800 people per year. [Both Sylvana and Annick have a child with a disability.] (They asked) if we had to scrap everything, what would be the best service offering for families that will make a serious difference?”
They took a design thinking approach, including an ethnographic research approach and rapid prototyping to build a learning program called 'Now and Next'.
Annick Shares, ”(We looked at) how can parents use their learning to build on success, and get better, and better results for their children. We started with 18 sessions, and it is now down to 8 group sessions, and 1 one on one session.
The learning program shifts the mindset of parents to understanding the power of their own agency, and the control they have over their wellbeing.
Why a Learning Program?
Paraphrasing from the podcast Annick Shares:
We are using a learning program because we found people (parents) are feeling overwhelmed, and there generally isn’t something wrong with them (grief, denial, etc.). Annick didn’t want to generalize, but what they found is that what people need is to learn strategies and solutions to get the results that are meaningful to them. Now and Next is a learning framework, rather than a therapeutic framework.
The Now and Next Program VS. The Traditional Model
There are 5 areas of differentiation that the Now and Next Program focuses on Vs. the Traditional Model.
Paraphrasing from the Podcast Annick shares:
1. The Initial Interview:
In the initial interview with a professional they ask you “Tell me about your child?” This was a stressful situation as a mother. You eventually say… "my child can’t do this, and can’t do that." Parents are left feeling terrible. Until now we haven’t really had a better way.
In the Now and Next Program, we used the theory of gamification and created a game called, 'Pictability'. We chose pictures for the game based on our research of what people had used their individualized funding for. We designed the game so that people are brought straight into the strength domain using projective identification. People are able to identify a great future for their child and create a vision board with a long-term vision, and short-term goals. Games can bring out a lot of creativity and learning.
2. Notes are Shared:
In a typical parent – professional relationship the professional is the one that is taking and keeping the notes. These are often written up in a report by a professional that may be written in jargon and can be hard to understand for families.
With Now and Next Parents hand write their own goals, and we use technology to create a multi-media report so those goals can be shared with loved ones and supporters easily.
3. Working on Goals:
In the traditional model, I often hear that it is really hard for parents to come up with goals, and the goals are written up by the professional, as mentioned above.
In Now and Next, parents define and work on their own goals, and they become empowered. Parents choose their own goals, and parents are committed to these goals because they have chosen them.
4. Positive Psychology:
The Now and Next Program is the first of it’s kind (to Annick’s knowledge) to incorporate the concepts from Positive psychology. Traditionally psychology looked at how we can get someone from a -3 closer to zero, say -1. Positive psychology looks at how can we get someone who is at zero to +2.
Martin Seligman, one of the forefathers of positive psychology, taught us the concept of learned helplessness, which says that we bear unpleasant circumstances because we have learned they are un-escapable. But, through prospection we are able to look into the future and build a better future for ourselves. We looked at the prospection model and integrated these ideas into our model.
5. Sustainable and Scalable:
With the traditional model, there is a power imbalance and families are dependent on professionals. This is not sustainable. There is limited funding for professionals, and we cannot rely on this.
When I talk to professionals and parents all around the world and ask them how they would rate their partnership their answers don’t always match up. At the end of the day, parents are expecting professionals to do the work to ‘fix’ their child. As a society, we have put professionals in high regard, and we have given them power.
With the Now and Next Program we hold parents as the experts, and we are giving parents the tools they need to build the future they want. We have also found that Parent to Parent facilitating has proven to be most effective because of the deep understanding and empathy parents have for each other. This contributes to the scalability of the program because participants are becoming facilitators, and they can then train local people.
The Now and Next Program is measuring the amount of agency (i.e. empowerment) that a parent has, and they have demonstrated significant increases post program.
“In April 2017, the peer facilitators and alumni of the Now and Next program held their inaugural conference, entitled ‘By Families, For Families’, in Sydney, Australia. At this conference, something groundbreaking transpired, something both profoundly significant and genuinely radical: parents of young children with disability and developmental delay actively accepted responsibility for asserting their “natural authority” (Kendrick, 1995) in their partnerships with their child’s professionals and therapists.” Read more from the source article here.
Annick Reflects on the turning point with her son, Yaniv:
“I was disappointed in professionals trying to get Yaniv to fit into a ‘normal’ box, (which wasn’t working very well). There was a lot that he was teaching me, and we decided to go for the amazing and genius box. In high school, Yaniv became interested in art. In art class, he required less of a teacher aid, and this motivated Yaniv. Whereas, in the more academic classes he needed more of an aid. We took the ‘Eye of the needle’ approach, and everything they were trying to teach Yaniv would go through art. An artist needs to have a bio, and the way that you write it is by pushing this button on the computer. Today, Yaniv is an international artist. Learn more about Yaniv and his art through his website Yanivjanson.com.
A huge thank you to Dr. Annick Janson for coming onto the podcast! If you would like to learn how to bring Now and Next to your area please reach out to Annick! (email: annick@egl.ac.nz)
Thank you for reading to today's blog! If you liked this episode, and think someone you know would benefit, please share it with them! Be a part of the change to think differently about disability.
Love & Respect,
Eric
Resources:
Annick’s email: annick@egl.ac.nz
Website: egl.ac.nz
Blog: Click Here
Videos: Click Here
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Tuesday Sep 12, 2017
#028: Self-Care and Parenting, with Ann Douglas
Tuesday Sep 12, 2017
Tuesday Sep 12, 2017
Parenting author, Ann Douglas, discusses parenting a child with a mental illness /disability, and practicing self-care so we are available as care-givers.
This week on the podcast/ blog I welcome Ann Douglas, author of numerous books on parenting with over half a million copies sold. Ann and I discuss her newest book titled “Parenting Through the Storm”, which is a guide to parenting a child who is struggling with Mental health, neuro-developmental, or behavioural challenges. We also focus in on self-care for parents (and supporters), and discuss why it is important, tips to practice self-care, and how to create the space for yourself.
Parenting Through the Storm
In the writing of this book, Ann interviewed 50 other parents that have been through it, and she found many common threads through all of their experiences. She took her research findings as well as her own personal experiences and wrote this book to provide practical advice for parents.
On the podcast Ann shares, “I wrote this book because all 4 of my kids had some sort of challenge, and at the time I thought ‘ I must be doing it wrong.’ I desperately needed to know that things could get better – and they have! Parents are resilient, children are resilient, and families are resilient. It is possible to go through all these storms together and to come out stronger and more connected on the other side”
You can learn more about the book at www.anndouglas.net.
Is There a Right Way to Parenting?
On the podcast Ann shares, “There is a right way for your family, and you figure that out over time. Each of my 4 kids needed a different approach to parenting. It isn’t cookie cutter, because everyone is different. There were times that 1 of our kids needed ¾ of the parenting energy, which left only tiny little slices for the rest of the kids…. I felt guilty about that… but there are times when our attention had to shift around.”
What is Self-Care? and Why is it Important?
On the podcast Ann shares, “Sometimes people think about self-care as self-indulgence, for example, sitting on the couch eating bonbons. But, that isn’t how it usually plays out. Mainly it is about taking good care of yourself so that you have something left to give to the family member who needs you. When you are parenting a child, who is struggling you can’t afford to get completely burnt out and depleted. Without you your child will be lost.”
“Even though it can feel selfish I would argue it isn’t selfish, it is self-preservation.”
Practicing Self-Care
We are all unique in our own ways, and the best way for us to practice self-care is unique to us. We all have a self-care tool box filled with tools to refill our energy tanks, sometimes we just aren’t opening the toolbox frequently enough.
Ann provides 3 tips to practicing great self-care.
1) Physical Activity – Move your body in a way that is right for you. For Ann, this means taking 2 walks per day. (For me, this means breaking a sweat every morning by running or biking. Physical activity supports our physical health, and also enhances our brain function.)
2) Social Support – Ann shares, “It takes a village to raise a child, and I would argue it takes a village to support the parents that are supporting that child. Accept help when it is offered, and ask for help when you need it.” When you have help use the space to practice good self-care to fill your energy tank.
3) A Creative Outlet – Ann Shares, “Creative outlets take the focus away from worries, and brings our focus into that activity. There is research that shows that when our brain is actively engaged in a different activity (a hobby, etc.) it leaves us feeling more refreshed vs. vegging out on the couch.”
Tips For Creating the Space for Self-Care:
> Let others help you, and take a slice of that time to do something kind for yourself.
> Ask for help. It is a great opportunity that you are giving someone else when you ask them to help – lose the guilt about that.
> If we need to find the time then look at where you are wasting the time. For how many hours are you watching TV, or on your phone?
> Don’t be seduced into the that zoning out, find a creative activity.
> Be intentional about creating the space in your day for self-care. (I block off the first 2 hours of my day to break a sweat, read, meditate)
Ann shares her personal story of falling into bad habits that resulted in poor sleep, anxiety, and gaining 100 lbs, then breaking the cycle, building positive self-care habits, and loosing those 100 lbs.
I thank Ann for coming on the podcast/ blog to share the what she has learned on her parenting journey, and for sharing her wealth of knowledge on self-care to help us live happy and healthy lives.
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Love & Respect,
Eric
Resources:
Learn more about Ann's Books: Click Here
Contact Ann Douglas on Twitter: @anndouglas
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